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Therapists call it the ‘competence trap’: the high-functioning adults everyone leans on are quietly burning out. APA, Pew, Fed and McEwen-tradition stress research on the real cost of always being the strong friend.

Twelve percent of Americans now have zero close friends, four times the rate in 1990. The friendship recession is structural, not personal, and what works to reverse it is more boring than you think.

Decision fatigue is no longer a laboratory curiosity — it is the default emotional weather of high-functioning adult life. What the research from Baumeister, Iyengar, and a landmark PNAS study of parole judges actually shows, and the small adaptations that quietly work.

An empathetic, evidence-anchored look at the so-called Sunday Scaries: what anticipatory work anxiety is actually doing to people, why it has worsened, and the small, durable habits that quietly help.